“What makes you shine?” she asked.
This question was posed to me point blank at the Triumph 40th Anniversary – Autumn/Winter 2012 Preview event the other night, held at the beautiful Alkaff Mansion. Bad enough I only had a second or two to formulate an answer in my head, I also had a video camera pointing at my face (you know how I feel about this).
“Confidence,” I replied. “Confidence makes me shine.”
It’s not a tacky answer. I genuinely believe that self-confidence is a very attractive trait to have, but often we trip ourselves up by being insecure about this and that, and we think there’s something wrong with us. We will never be perfect in our minds, not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough, not rich enough, not smart enough… whatever it may be. We are our harshest critics, eh? Given that this was a lingerie fashion show event, I inadvertently thought of a story about my pal Andrea. A successful attorney and blessed with both intellect as well as good looks, Andrea once went into a psychotic frenzy upon meeting a guy she liked and found out that he used to date a lingerie model. LOL, that one small tiny knowledge was sure to set off any gal into a mode of insecurity and lack of confidence. In the end though, she managed to overcome that and the guy reciprocated her interest once she reasserted her self-confidence. So you see? Confidence is very sexy and I believe it gives off an inner shine regardless of what cup size you have or how “perfectly” perky your breasts are.
Back at the Triumph event, I was standing at the lovely outdoor courtyard of Alkaff Mansion, observing party guests of all shapes and sizes were mingling, sipping champagne, nibbling on hors d’oeuvres and being serenaded by a live band. We were waiting for the fashion show to start. When the show finally begun, it was a visual treat of lanky models strutting their stuff down the runway donning gorgeous lingerie. They did say this was sorta the Singapore equivalent of a Victoria’s Secret fashion show, albeit not as extravagant, but the styling was nonetheless elegant, beautiful and drool-worthy.
I didn’t have a good vantage point to take pictures, nor had the right equipment to do so. Then again, I did get mostly butt shots from where I stood and some people would say it’s the perfect spot. :P It was a pretty event though, and I think the video below by SuperAdrianMe.com has captured the glitz and glamour that took place on the runway that evening.
I think confidence is an form of resilience (which may be why it’s often mistaken as having a thick skin). I don’t think the two can ever be mutually-exclusive, eh? I say that thick skin is acquired from having been there, done that, came out alive and still kicking. Of accepting self as a perfect being, or at the very least being good enough. Being comfortable in your own skin, being just who you are. Because really, who else can you be if not be yourself? I think when you’re confident, you exude an inner shine and all the rest, all that exterior stuff, becomes merely cosmetic.
Shine on and flaunt it.